taketheLEAD Part 3

How To Take Control Of Your Life

Have you ever seen a slave living the life of his dream while he is still under slavery? Would it have been possible for Nelson Mandela to become the president of South Africa under the apartheid system? Or do you think Obama would have become the US president if the law that allowed discrimination against blacks was still in force? The answer to these questions is obviously No! Living without being in control of your live can be likened to living as a black under the apartheid system in South Africa. You will never be able to realize your full potential. It imposes serious limitation on your capacity to succeed. Therefore, if you      really   want to realize your full potential and live your dream, you must put in whatever is required to break free from self-imposed slavery and take control of your live. Being   the concluding part of these series, let me quickly explain how we can take control of our lives and start living a better live.

Have a paradigm shift from self-centeredness to other-centeredness

The most effective way to take control of your life is to increase your sphere of influence. The question now is; how do you gain influence? One of the ways of gaining other people’s influence is by solving problem for them. However, you can only solve problem for people if you love them and have concern for them. Solving problem for others call for radical change of mindset from self-centeredness to other-centeredness. This paradigm shift will focus your thinking on solving problems massive scale.   This     kind     of thinking will eventually crystallize into ideas that will help you solve problems on massive scale.

Be Responsible

Another thing you need to do if you want to taketheLEAD is to start accepting responsibility for your situation in life. Stephen Covey in his book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” explained this concept by breaking responsibility to response + ability. He explained that responsibility means ability to chose your response to situations, circumstances and conditions. Though you may not have control on what happens, you have absolute control on your response to the situation. And it is your response or reaction to the situation that ultimately determines what you become. It therefore means whatever your situation is your full responsibility. Stop blaming others and situations, you have full responsibility for who you are. You cannot start growing until you stop blaming. Don’t forget that it is not what happens to you that determine who you are but your reaction to what happens. No matter the circumstance you find yourself in life, you can come out a better person or otherwise depending on your reaction to it. See the story of Joseph in the bible. He was sold into slavery and from there into prison. Throughout his ordeal Joseph was acting maturely and responsibly. There was no time he blamed anybody for his predicament. Rather he maintained positive attitude, focused on his vision and was giving his best wherever he found himself.  Consequently, he was able to take control of the situation and ultimately realized his dream.

Set goals and put plans in place to achieve them

If you really want to take control of your life, you must have goals for your life. Also, you must put strategy in place to achieve your goals. As we are starting a new year, what are the things you want to achieve in this year? You must write those things down. Those things are your goals for the year. And for each of these goals, you must write down how you intend to make them a reality. Meanwhile, in setting your goals for the year, you need to ensure that
they are SMART.

S stands for SPECIFIC; each of your goal ‘should specific. It should not be a general statement like I want to lose weight. State exactly how many kilograms you want to shed. It is better to say, I want to lose 10kg.

M stands for MEASURABLE; every goals should be measurable, that is, achievement of the goal should have a noticeable difference.

A stands for ACHIEVABLE; in setting your goals you need to be ambitious but not overambitious. That is, your goals should be something you can achieve within the given time frame.

R stands for REALISTIC; your goals should be challenging but at the same time reasonable. Failure to achieve a goal can have a serious discouraging effect on you. While setting your goals you need to have it at the back of your mind that most of the time goals obey seed principle. There is sowing and harvest season, sowing is a prerequisite to harvest. Seeds have their natural gestation period. When you plant a seed you must wait for its gestation period before you can harvest. Hence, you need to consider the gestation period for you to set realistic goals. For example, if your goal is be a cocoa farmer with capacity to sell 100 tons of cocoa per annum. This is not a goal you can achieve in one year unless you have money to buy an existing cocoa farm that is big enough to produce 100 tons of cocoa annually. Otherwise, you need to wait for 3 to 6 years depending on the variety of the cocoa you plant.

T stands for TIME BOUND; there should be a deadline when you intend to achieve each of your goals. It should not be an open-ended time frame.

In addition to setting SMART goals, you must ensure that your actions are in harmony with your goals.

Start Living Your Dreams

There is nothing as fulfilling as living your dreams in live. Though everybody has big dreams, research has shown that only five out of hundred are able live their dreams. Then, why is it that 95 out of 100 people (95%) end up not living their dream? The answer is very simple, 95 percent of people don’t have control of their live. They are afraid of taking the necessary risk that will help them to taketheLEAD and have control of their life. However, if you want to be among the 5% who live their dreams, all you need to do is to exercise the right given to us by almighty God to have dominion, to be fruitful and live a prosperous life. You are at liberty drawdown on this authority and start living your dreams. Break yourself free from self-imposed slavery, go confidently in direction of our dreams taketheLEAD and live the life you imagined! Live your dream!

Thank you for reading. If you wish to receive taketheLEAD by mail, please send ‘subscribe’ to takethelead.ng@gmail.com .

Muyiwa Okeola


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Positive Transformation Agent
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4 Responses to taketheLEAD Part 3

  1. FFF Team says:

    Great post. You make some terrific points and I especially like what you say about moving from self- to other-centeredness. I write about similar topics and I think we share a similar outlook. I invite you and your readers to check out my blog and I’d love to hear your thoughts. You can find it at http://findfulfillflourish.wordpress.com. One post you might especially like is “Imagine the Possibilities” at http://findfulfillflourish.wordpress.com/2010/12/08/imagine-the-possibilities/
    Also feel free to visit our website at http://www.findfulfillflourish.com and take the free Guiding Values Survey. I’d love your feedback.

    Thanks for this series and sharing your thoughts.

    • muyiwaokeola says:

      Thank you very much for your interest in my blog and the comment.

      I have visited your blog and have read some of your postings. They are really informative and very interesting. In short , I have subscribed to receive e-mail notification each time you post a new article.
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  2. Thank you very much for your interest in my blog and the comment.

    I have visited your blog and have read some of your postings. They are really informative and very interesting. In short , I have subscribed to receive e-mail notification each time you post a new article.
    Also, I must commend that, the concept of findfulfillflourish is very innovative.

  3. olyugbenga abiodun says:

    this message is an authenticity on the fact that your attitude determine your altitude. I believe there is nothing like negativity, but your attitude spelt it out.

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